And so – it comes to pass – that all we ask for shall be granted.

 

I am delighted today to have an amazing and talented guest blogger… Jaki Mac, the Queen of Abundance. Thank you lovely lady for your contribution.

Jaki and I met through a Facebook group and a monkey survey. Don’t you just love connections! Now over to Jaki. 

 

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 And so – it comes to pass  - that all we ask for shall be granted.    Oh, as if

Can you imagine how wonderful life would be if this really was the case?

Can you believe how easy it would be, to create a life of our own making, living a dream reality, having time for work, and play and fun?

What would the world be like if we just had the power to create it, 100% tailor made to our specifications?

Ah, can you just let your mind wander through that thought for just a moment? How cool would that be?

The simplicity of it all – the lack of struggles and stress -  the ability to travel – volunteer – work at what really sits at the core of your passion – whatever your heart desires.

Sounds way too good to be true??

 

What if I told you that every single facet of life as you know can be tailor made?

What if I assured you that everything is going to be okay – that we can make positive change in our lives purely by bringing it toward us.

 

About 10 years ago, I was a single Mother of 5 kids, struggling to make ends meet in a Coal Mining town in Central Queensland. The Boom hit, and the rented church owned house that we had called home for more than 10 years, was offered to the Mining Company for 10 times the amount of rent we paid. “Nothing personal, my dear, we just have a tremendous opportunity to create wealth”. And just like that, we were homeless – without $1800 a week to spare for rent.

The children and I lived in a tent in a friends backyard, my son was diagnosed with a brain tumour, and my world was a dark place to inhabit at that time.

I weighed over 140kg and made bad decisions in my choice of romantic partner.

I was sad, lonely, overweight, homeless and broke.

One night, I realised my choices were simple. I could sink, or I could swim.

I chose to swim. I wrote a list of what was needed in my life at that point of time.

I wanted a roof over our heads, I wanted to find a better paying job, I wanted healing for my son.

 

I asked for every single thing I could think of, and I got it. Seeing how I made the decision to swim, I might as well swim at the front.

 

I asked for a better job, more money, a car, a phone, a computer, housing allowance – all kinds of deals were made at each years performance review. And each year, the boss signed on that dotted line in agreeance.

This was amazing, so each year I wrote a new list, asking for more and more and more blessings, in life and love and happiness, not just my career.  Each morning when I awoke, I thanked the Universe for allowing me another day, and I asked to double my blessings.

Fast forward to now, when I have given up my 200k pa job, and I now have settled into a much better lifestyle balance.  My kids are grown, healthy and happy. I have manifested vitality and health into my life and in the process I dropped 70kg.. that’s a whole person!

My son was healed – totally – and to this day his tumour has not grown a millimetre.

The Universe’s attention to detail was so specific, it delivered to me a man that not only looked like George Clooney, but he comes with 5 more children, yep, I doubled my blessings.

The point of this story of mine, is to portray that Asking and Receiving really is that simple, and one must always be very careful in what they ask for.

What are the things you think about during the day?

  • I’ll never find a park here at this time of day.
  • This cake will go straight to my hips.
  • I never loose weight.
  • It always rains when I wash the car.
  • Why is it always happening to me?
  • I always get stopped at the airport security.
  • I can never get a cab.

Or are you much more upbeat and positive?

  • I’m so lucky
  • I always get a great park near the front
  • Health and Vitality come to me easily
  • I love being active
  • I have a fabulous life

The words you speak become your reality. It really is a matter of the Law of Attraction, The Law of Physics, Like Attracts Like and all….

And yes , I know this is nothing new, we have all heard of this idea.  This new-agey bullshit that people sprout on about it.

Yes, we have all heard of The Secret – but we don’t ever seem to implement it…. Don’t roll your eyes at me, this stuff is pure science. Stop poo-pooing for one minute and give it a whirl.

Just for today, I would like you to be super mindful of your words – and take note of the words you use daily.

“What comes out of your mouth, is so much more important to what goes in it” – a wise man once said of health and vitality matters. And I have learned this is true in every aspect of life and business.

I am now known in my circles as The Queen of Abundance – and I have two house’s, three cars, umpteen stamps in my passport to prove it. I am now running Multi Million Dollar businesses, created and implemented by the principles learned over the years.

Make a list. Take the first step of Action toward your goal. Then trust in the Universe to deliver.

Can it be any more simple for you?

Want to make a difference in your life? Make a List, Take a Step and Be Specific.

I AM Jaki Mac – and I AM The Queen of Abundance.

 

Thank you Jaki for sharing your beautiful thoughts and story.

 

Now ladies it is your turn are you up for changes in your life?  Jaki’s call to action is a great place to start. I would to hear your thoughts.

 

 

 

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Do You Know How Long 20 Seconds Can Be?

 

Last Saturday I was a contestant in a speech contest…it did not go as I planned. And guess what the sun still came up on Sunday, it was not the end of the world!

I learned a valuable lesson – no matter what happens…stick there and just do it. As I am writing, the words of a song drifted into the room ‘I took the blow’ and did it my way. Seems rather appropriate. What happened? My mind went blank and I froze for 20 seconds…it seemed forever. It felt like the weight of the world was pressing down on me.

 

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It is true that your mind can go blank at any time… I just did not plan for it to happen in a speaking situation. Yep… I did it with real panache for 20 long, long seconds. Yet through that time I could feel the energy in the room urging me on… I just could not find the words to begin.

As you know I am passionate about confidence for mature women. It is not something that you ‘get’, hang on the wall and have it forever. Confidence is something that may vary in different parts of your life and when a challenge arises it easy for ‘that bit to get bent out of shape’. It does not mean all is lost.

 

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My mind went blank about one minute into my speech – what raced through my mind was disbelief, horror and embarrassment. Then something happened. From somewhere deep inside me grit and sheer determination pulled me through. It was not  a conscious thought, it was like instinct. Pulling that positive energy back stripped me temporarily of my oomph….

If I had walked off the stage that would have been old behaviours kicking in. That would have undone everything I have worked toward for years. The previous victories I have had in overcoming a challenge came to the fore and enabled me to win over that challenge that day. Or as I am reframing it SUCCESS IN THE PRESENT. 

 

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After the contest I felt disappointment in myself and started down the ;self flagellation track. I felt my recovery was ineffective… despite a number of friends telling me differently. Pete had videoed my speech and encouraged me to watch it when we arrived home. It was the best thing I could have done… yes, I agreed then I had recovered well. I had to see it to believe it.

My sharing is showing that we can all have embarrassing moments in life, when we wish the floor would open up and swallow us – my confidence work saved my day. It allowed my oomph to re-surface. When you let go and trust in yourself it will happen.

Maybe you have had an ‘experience’ that left you with disbelief, horror and embarrassment. Maybe it has robbed you of your oomph. If so the secret is knowing how to access and implement your inner confidence.

 

 

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I can help you with that.. when I can impart the knowledge of a clients own power and how to access it…that is real confidence.  If you are in that place right now I would love to chat with you and help you move forward.  Contact me via the website or at di@ddiriddell.com

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9 Tips On Emotional Wellness That Will Change Your Life

 

This week is Mental Health Week. A time of raising awareness of that insidious, hidden away concept that mental un-wellness is somehow a major flaw in our personality.

Why is it that we talk about our medical woes, take medication to help a physical disease and engender masses of sympathy yet when it comes to mental un-wellness we hit a brick wall – dead silence?

Talking about mental issues was not always a popular concept. In fact any hint of mental un-wellness was hidden and not talked about. Feelings of guilt and shame that you could not cope can make you isolate, stop interacting and enable the ‘fear factor’ to run riot.

 

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Transparency is a word that springs to my mind… transparency does not take away, it adds another dimension.  Today I am showing my transparency.

 

I am sharing because of what I have learned, I remember how frustrated and fearful I was when I could not cope after the death of my husband. I had no idea how to start over. I remember when I started taking action how I berated myself because I was ‘not getting better’ quicker. ‘There must be something wrong with me’ became my catch cry.

I know how it feels to be so down you feel you will never be able to get back up. I know how it feels to make a start, make some progress then feel you have slipped back beyond where you started. I know how it feels when you still ‘don’t get it’.

Sharing my insights may help you or someone you know who is doing it tough emotionally right now.  Am I perfect? NO! Do I always get it right ? NO! Do I still work on it? YES!

It is about progress not perfection.

 

 9 Tips on Emotional Wellness That Will Change Your Life

  1. Know you are not alone
  2. Acknowledge and accept where you are right now
  3. Reach out – avoid isolating
  4. Be kind to yourself in thoughts words and actions
  5. Interact with positive people
  6. Avoid confidence and energy zappers – those who drain your energy
  7. Try different modalities and treatments and decide what is best for you..  
  8. Develop daily practices that are sustainable and workable for you
  9. Do it. Yes you actually have to do it.

 

We are all different in how we think, feel and act. There is no one solution fits all. Only you know what works for you, when you find it embrace it and go for it.. If you need professional help seek it out and accept it.

These tips changed my life – simple, effective, supportive tips . I am pleased that I have taken the actions necessary for emotional well being and happiness. When I am open and transparent it allows others to be open and transparent with me. That does not take away, it adds another dimension.

 

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If you are seeking tips to improve your life or you would like to know more detail on using the tips contact me through the website or PM me on Facebook  http://www.facebook.com/ConfidenceBeyond50, I can help you to see beyond the overwhelm so you can focus on attracting the next best thing into your life with confidence.

 

 

 

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There Is Another Way… After You Lose Someone You Love Dearly!

 

When a life changing event occurs, a moment in time becomes a catalyst. It is then  your choice whether you make a good or not so good choice.  At this time your world is turned upside down… it is difficult to think there is another way…that there is a future.

 

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One moment in time happened for me 13 years ago today on September 4th 2002. That afternoon I was sitting in dappled sunlight on the verandah of  a hospital room with a few close friends and family. We all knew why we were there, conversation was light and inconsequential.

There was an ear piercing ‘Dianne come quick’… it shattered that illusion. In 3 steps I was beside the bed and the man who had adored me for 31 years, the man who had been my husband and cheerleader lay lifeless before me. The evening is a blur to me… the next day I was at the bank at opening time to find my credit card had been cancelled (I did not realise it was a secondary account) and the joint accounts frozen. That was just the start. If you have been there you know how I felt.

Going back a few days I had commented to a friend “I don’t know how I will cope without him’.  The wise friend said – “You will Di, life will be different but it can still be great.

I would love to say that I ‘pulled up my socks’ and did it all perfectly and lived happily ever after.

It took many detours and gaining a new and different perspective for me to start the process. And it was a shaky start. I learned that change is a process not an event.

 

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Today I am living a wonderful life. Looking back I wonder who I was then, I scarcely recognise her.  At some stage in our lives we come to a point where we wonder about how we used to think and act and what made us do things.

It is certain that I would never have traveled the self development path I did had Les still been alive.  It has been a journey, a process with challenges from the miniscule to the monumental. And it has been worth it.

The skills I have learned , the book written and self published, the coaching, speaking, and MC have been rewarding. Observing my personal growth has been extraordinary as has the many women I have helped along the way.  It makes my heart sing when I see the confidence rise in women with whom I have worked.

What I can say is that each thing I have done has led me to the next best thing, each time facing and overcoming greater challenges. I continue with the self development and I can’t see it stopping any time soon.

5 Things I have learned about ‘there is another way’

 

    • Change starts with us – I have learned to embrace change and realise worrying is a massive waste of time and energy.
    • I learned to love myself and know that self care is not an indulgence, it is a necessity. It is a powerful healing and growing process.
    • Forgiveness and gratitude – developing these qualities has given me peace and it has opened doors in ways I could never have imagined.
    • I learned that harmful, habitual thinking and behaviour habits can be permanently interrupted and replaced with nourishing and supportive ones.
    • It is Ok and it is a strength to ask for help – it was up to me to act on it.

 

Thank you Les for being such a positive, loving and supportive partner. I matured and became the woman I became with you help. My life is richer as a result of your being a part of it. My love flows to you as I reflect today.  I also realise that that time has passed, it was wonderful. Thirteen years later my life has changed. I have new perspectives, it is different, exciting and great.

 

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To the women facing challenges today, this too shall pass. There will be another brighter day. There really is ‘another way’.

If you are feeling overwhelmed after a challenge, and this post resonates with you contact me through the website for a chat to see how I can help. From my heart to your heart ladies…. much love and hugs. Di

 

 

 

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Let It Go!

 

Hello beautiful readers…I am starting today with a couple of questions – just to get you thinking.

 

Have you ever hung on for dear life , come hell or high water you were mot going to let go?

Have you ever said ‘hell will freeze over before I let go’

Have you ever spent hours doing something on the computer and ‘bingo’…it’s gone? Then ranted and raved?

 

My guess is you will have answered yes to one to at least one of the questions.

 

Did you know that:

It takes enormous energy to hang in there, fighting every Universal force’

It takes enormous energy proving you were right’

It takes enormous energy being Superwoman’

It takes enormous energy doing a rant.

It makes your ‘self righteous little self’ shudder in shame’

 

 

Whatever has happened.. ask yourself:

  • ‘Will it matter in 5 years?’

  • Will the sun still come up tomorrow?

 

Yesterday I spent a couple of hours working on a  blog post and suddenly I realised it had disappeared. I could not get it back. in the past I would have gone into a flap, overwhelm, bagged myself for the duration and had a thoroughly miserable afternoon. Instead I simply went on wit other things.  In fact I could not even remember what I had written about.

My questions to  me were:

Does it really matter?

Will the sun still come up tomorrow? Yes it will.

 There are times when it is OK for your ducks not to be in a  row… other times you get them lined up and discover they are not your ducks!

 

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Often when we are in that place it is fear speaking, trying to prove yourself to yourself or someone else. We hang in rather than let anyone know we could not do or achieve something.

The hiding does more damage than the hanging on. It either eats away at you very loudly right now, or you bury it and it eats away at you quietly. I would like to suggest that you simply let it go, open up, be transparent and laugh at yourself.

Transparency does not take away it adds another dimension. Take a moment to fully absorb the image.

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Letting go gives you a release, a lightness it adds to your peace of mind, the tenseness leaves your body, you get to relax and may even laugh.  There is beauty in letting go, embracing the gift of grace and allowing your authentic confidence to shine.

If you feel the fear of letting go is holding you back… I invite you to come and personally experience my coaching program. I would love the opportunity to help you ‘let go’ and step up so you can focus on the next best thing in your life.  if so contact me through the website  or email at di@diriddell.com

If you found this helpful then I would be grateful for you to share this with someone that you feel would appreciate them. Cheers Di

 

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Is A Confident Woman Perfect or Is She Standing In Her Power?

 

What makes a woman confident?

  • What is it that gets her out there helping others?
  • Is she superwoman?
  • Is she untouchable?
  • Is she perfect?

Does she stand in her power or her shadow?

 

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No she is not perfect, she is just like any other woman who has moved through challenges – sometimes brilliantly other times horribly. She has felt the winds of hardship, pain, loneliness, insecurity, shame and regret as well as the joys of success, happiness and achievement.

 

She is not someone who has never encountered hardship, she is one who has moved through her hardships ranging from the miniscule to the monumental. She has been moulded, shaped and been prepared to take the actions necessary to move forward in her life.

 When you are a confident woman you understand challenges.

That natural confidence lends itself to you reaching out to help other less confident women and lend them words of encouragement. You know how they feel – you have been there.

Superwoman has gone.

Being confident does not mean that you do everything or that you are the only person who can do it right (I bet that raised a smile on a few faces). Confident women know how to ‘do’ self care effectively and how to say no without needing to justify.

 Untouchable?

I have heard confident women described as untouchable. In fact their BS tolerance is low…very low. By making a conscious decision not to participate in what does not serve her, to those women she may appear untouchable.

 Confident Women are often misjudged.  

She may be called proud, arrogant standoffish and say things like – ‘It is Ok for her, she is confident what would she know about having no confidence?’  ‘She looks like she has led a charmed life and never had to do a hard days work in her life’. That is not true at all and many who speak like this have had opportunities to improve their lives and didn’t, then when they see someone who has, they hit out in their frustration and insecurities.

She is not proud, arrogant or standoffish, she is simply confident in herself.  There is a huge difference between confidence and pride and arrogance. The arrogance and pride is expressed as only looking after herself, thinks she is a cut above the rest and to hell with everyone else. A confident woman isn’t afraid to put others before herself, she is ready, willing and able to lift other women as they step up, into and through their challenges.

 She has emerged from her shadow and has stepped into her power with confidence.

  •  She believes in herself and her confidence is best described as that extraordinary energy that is alive, vibrant, strong and positive. You know it when you see it and say ‘I want some of what she has got!’
  •  She uses her past experiences of pain, hurt, disillusionment, abuse and peppers them liberally with her ‘licence to skill’ to help them make their breakthroughs, to embrace their pain and move forward.

As a confidence mentor  women don’t need me to save, rescue or berate them in their confidence stakes. My skill set lies in imparting knowledge of your own power and how to access it…that is real confidence.

 

I have emerged from my shadow into my power…and I can help you?

If this resonates with you, if you would like more information contact me today. Through the website  www.diriddell.com or call me direct on 0409 638 248.

Having a chat will help take away some of your overwhelm so you can step into your even more beautiful and confident self. Warm regards Di

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Leftie’s Are Best… It Takes Confidence To Say that!

 

Yes I am a proud left hander, yes I have suffered and yes I have survived and prospered with my sense of humour intact in a right handed world.

Survive you say…would you believe over 2,500 left handed people are killed every year using equipment made for right- handed people.

There is no denying it left-hander’s are out there. However despite being 10% of the population society forgets us. We live in a right-handed world  it is right-handed utensils, cooking and cutting implements that are ALL for the right-handed…

 

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Check this TED-Ed presentation http://ed.ted.com/lessons/why-are-some-people-left-handed-daniel-m-abrams

There are however a few little known facts in our favour.

  1. We hear speeches differently – research shows people using their left hands when listening hear rapidly changing sounds and intonations.
  2. Left-handed Neanderthals were also in the minority. How did they know? The wear and tear on your teeth is different to right-handed folk. By locating the wear and tear on those prehistoric chompers it can be determined if they used their left or right hand.
  3. We are more inclined to shine in the creative arts.
  4. We vote for left -hander’s – a high percentage of recent US President’s were left-handed and it is thought a left-handed politician has an advantage in a televised debate. As a whole we associate the right-handed gestures as ‘good;’ and the left as ‘bad’. On TV it is displayed as a mirror image.
  5. Lefties have an advantage in sport that involve two opponents facing each other such as tennis and boxing.
  6. The sight of us using a cutting or carving knife drives right-handed people crazy…. they can’t wait to hop in and help out.
  7. Lefties tend to like a cold drink on a hot day
  8. The 13th of August is International left- hander’s Day. First launched in 1992 the UK-based Left-Hander’s Club to increase awareness about the left-handed lifestyle.
  9. Lefties are not going anywhere… will we fade away? Noooooooooooo we have been in the minority and being less common we have the surprise effect. Get used to us!

I have even become a member of the left hander’s club…

 

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And lastly Di’s reason… it is not good news for anyone sitting on my left at dinner… I tend to help them with their wine intake by picking up the glass on my left. … I am generous like that.  And this glass must be mine it has ice in it!

A touch of delicious wickednessDid you know we are all born left-handed? You turn right-handed when you make your first mistake.

OK I will be good now……and share a few of my left-handed life experiences that…well perhaps I could say they were ‘character building’ and ‘provided opportunities for self growth’.

I felt the breeze before the brunt of the metal edge of the wooden ruler hit,  it swished through the air before it came crashing down on my knuckles….as my  5-year-old eyes watered and my hand throbbed …I thought what was my crime? Picking up the pencil in my left hand. I did not even realise it was my left hand because I got confused between my left and right hands. It was simply the hand I used to colour in and draw.

As I sat there tears rolling down my cheeks I wondered why, why, why was it so wrong to pick up a pencil in ‘that’ hand. I had no confidence or self esteem in those days

Today I ask myself did that set the scene for my  unusual handwriting? I often hear the comment…’ It looks neat but I can’t read it.’

Then I saw this image … and what  a beauty! Written just for me I think.

 I don’t have bad hand writing…I have my own font.

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School experiences… Did this happen to you?  It happened to me and many others who started school in the 1950′s. The excitement of going to school waned quickly as my knuckles suffered on a daily basis.

This ‘training’ apparently was for ‘my own good’  Miss Lowe, the googly-eyed, enormous  frightening teacher. She would tower over me BELLOW. She delighted in pointing out my ‘crime’ to the rest of the class.

That pain extended beyond the classroom. Further torment came during the maypole dance. Each of us round a pole with a coloured streamer and the idea was steps to the left and steps to the right in sequence…I did not remember the sequence, nor which foot to put forward…gee I wonder why????

You can guess what I am going to say…left, left, right and there I would be with the wrong foot forward going in the wrong direction.  Again I felt the  breeze before the brunt of the metal edge of the wooden ruler  as it swished through the air before it came crashing down across the back of my legs.

Imagine doing that to a child today? I know we really can’t place today’s values on yesterdays actions…but that was a tough gig for a kid.

‘Straighten up your page Dianna’ would be the next bellow to fly across the room. Yes like many left handers…I turn the page at an angle to write. So can you imagine there I sat with the book straight, pencil in my right hand….how did I know which was right? By this time my stinging knuckles helped give me a clue.

To say it was pure hell….is an understatement. To say I did not care would be to tell a ‘porkie’ of massive proportions! Thank goodness it no longer standard practice…

Next time someone has a ‘point of view’ about your handwriting…you may like to borrow the phrase I don’t have bad hand writing…I have my own font. And just keep writing…

 

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If you are a left- hander and of a certain age (how is that for delicate)…I would love to hear your experiences of learning to write and coping in a right-handed world.

Warm regards and I really do love my right-handed friends…Di…

 

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Cruising Off Over The Seas … Not A Problem!

 

Getting just a tad excited…  you know those promos where you see the ship sailing? The passengers are smiling? It is smooth sailing and nobody gets motion sickness?

 

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That is ‘my intention’ for next week as I brave the high seas on my first cruise… I use an image with the words ‘dive right in…confidence breeds confidence’.  Well… my kind of diving in means ‘getting on the cruise ship’, not ‘diving into the water’.

Can you sense a teensy tiny bit of trepidation? Oohh can you really!

 

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  • Yes, traveling by plane, bus, car, train is not a problem. The swaying motion in a boat is a BIG problem. Now I know that was when we were in a 17 foot half cabin cruiser –  and we did go 17mile out to sea in it…that was a loooong way to me.
  • And on the houseboat – OK it was in sheltered waters and I was OK on that.
  • And I know the Pacific Jewel is much bigger – but so are the waves.

 

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Now what am I going to do about it?

The list, the list, the list where is my list?

 

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Steps taken include (yes my list making comes in handy)

  • Stemetil for balance – starting 3 days before I leave
  • Maxalon in case the unthinkable happens (I am a Cancerian I am prepared for everything)
  • Ginger tablets, ginger and ginger biscuits (told you I was prepared)
  • Arm bands for motion sickness.
  • My intentions phrases and my ‘tapping’ ability
  • I will eat and drink  lightly firsts night out
  • I remembered to pack my sense of humour (as a pirates wench on fun night I may need it)
  • Clothes… now that is a separate list!

What else?

  • I have been reliably informed that ships have green apples (in case)
  • If all else fails I could snack on confidence – that won’t add to my waistline
  • It was suggested to me yesterday that I put a band-aid behind my ear (not sure about that one)
  • OOhh and the best intention is that I have a wonderful time with the lovely man in my life.

Why am I sharing this?

  • The list may help someone else
  • It satisfies my list making gene
  • Now I know I am prepared I can relax and enjoy myself
  • It keeps you young facing and overcoming challenges

Not a problem…bring it on… off for 7 nights see you all on my return.

A quick question before I go – what have you done to challenge yourself this week?

If yes congratulations! If not it is only Friday afternoon you still have time!

If your confidence fails you when facing a challenge we need to chat… empowering through boosting confidence takes away the overwhelm. http://diriddell.com/confidence-coaching-2/

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I LOST 1300 KGS

Is that possible??????

Today, I had a huge Ahha! moment.

This morning I was in a hospital waiting room with my elderly brother reading a magazine. And well… I couldn’t just pop the magazine in my pocket now could I so I need to share from here? Wow, I was tempted and it sure got me thinking… along quite a different track to the food/weight angel that was the meat of the article.  to that intended in the article.

These words flew off the page at me…

 

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 I looked at it for a moment…thinking  how could that happen…then I read on! This woman had been on the see-saw of gaining and losing weight. She would gain weight, go on yet another diet (she tried every diet conceivable type of diet over the years). Yet the moment she stopped dieting she gained those kgs back + extra.

She is now down to her goal weight… she knows there is no magic bullet – ‘eat less and move more’ is her mantra.

The scary thing was she added up all the kgs she had lost over 25 years and it added up to 1300kgs. What a super human effort for her body to carry, her heart to pump for and her legs to carry.

However my mind went to our emotions -

If you look back over the years would you have the Confidence and courage to and count up in kgs the emotional baggage that you have accumulated, then lost some only to gain it back again + more.

 How many emotional kgs have burned through your body?

 

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Would you be willing to stop for a moment and add them up? What would your figure be? How many kgs in weight?

Is it any wonder that when we are loaded up with emotional baggage we:

  • Feel the weight of that pulling us down, dragging us under.
  • Feel exhausted and wrung out and shrouded in confusion
  • The confusion gets in the way of our making prudent decisions

I admit that I would have had my  share of 1300kgs of baggage over the years – this metaphor simple brought home how exhausting that was for my body. And what a relief when I let it go.

I meet many mature women who are feeling stressed, drowning in life’s challenges – is that where you are right now?

There is an answer – it does not have to be hard work. However we do need to make the decision to change.  To take control…if you are open to change… to having a strong, quiet level of confidence and belief in yourself to help you ride the flames of life’s ups and downs then I may have a solution for you.

My Confidence Circle Workshop on Thursday 25th June – addresses these issues. If  this sounds like something that could help you click here… Di’s Confidence Workshop

Girls keep looking after yourselves… you are precious. Hugs Di

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The Wisdom Whisperer… Confidence Tip No 5…Eye Contact

 

 Good morning… it is a cool morning here on the Sunshine Coast and the sun is shining through my office window.  The Wisdom Whisperer returns…again…there is more. To recap – as the ‘Wisdom Whisperer of Confidence’ I am chatting and sharing from experience gained over almost six decades.

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Today is the 5th blog post of 7 in the series. Tip 1 was Trust, tip 2 was Smile, Tip 3 was to laugh and tip 4 was to keep breathing. Today the tip is about eye contact.  Pat in the image is thinking I have to look at you?????? Now is that expression or what?

 

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Confidence is one of those things that we take for granted if we have it.  Other times it is elusive and no matter what… it seems to be just beyond our reach. That is Ok, confidence is not something you ‘reach’, pop it on the wall like a plaque and have it forever. It is a living, breathing, fluctuating energy and it loves attention.

Confidence is that extraordinary energy in you that is attractive, strong, vibrant and engaging. You know it when you see it…and say ‘I want some of that’.

 

TIP 5 MAKE EYE CONTACT

 

In our society not making eye contact is perceived as hiding something, un-confident and showing low self confidence. That may not be true however it is how it appears.

In saying ‘make eye contact’ I am not suggesting that you stare someone down that is unnerving to a point of rudeness. It is about having the confidence to look a person in the eye when speaking to them some of the time. To really connect, I love eyes, especially when someone’s laughter reaches their eyes.

It can demonstrate happiness, sadness, delight and everything in between. A picture says a thousand words as they say…

Beauty Clearing the eyes eyes, clearing, confidence, fears,security

 

And of course show a respect for cultural differences. That is another whole subject…

Tips in support of positive eye contact

  • It helps build rapport

  • It shows you are interested

  • It encourages active listening i.e. not jut paying lip service to the person who is speaking to you.

  • When your smile reaches your eyes they sparkle

  • It helps you to moderate what and how you speak by the response you see.

 My passion is to help women utilise all of their attributes in building or boosting their self confidence. To enhance their ability to present themselves to their best and use eye contact for a deeper connection.

  

A gentle reminder…

Tip 1 Trust and believe in yourself

Tip 2 Smile it is attractive and makes you look confident

Tip 3 Laugh – life does not have an undo button

Tip 4 Breathe – blue is a lovely colour but not on your face

Tip 5 Eye contact is encourages active listening

If my words resonate with you…and if you think you, or a woman you know could benefit from working with me I am seeking women 50+ or even younger who want to boost or build their confidence. Contact me via the website if you think I can help you.

I would be delighted to hear from you.

I would love you to share your thoughts on how effective you consider eye contact to be.

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