When It Feels Like Life Is Falling Apart…And It’s Christmas.


We have this ‘societal norm’ that all is calm, peaceful, happy and loving at Christmas. And it can be, in fact it is wonderful when that happens…and it takes a special kind of confidence to speak out… when it is not happening.

Just as well I am not wired for brain activity.. it would be buzzing in overdrive in every colour of the rainbow arcing from one wild thought to the next right now. A million thoughts are spinning through my head and that chattering committee is in top form …a very loud top form… dragging up every negative that has occurred throughout my entire life!

Why am I writing about his now? Because my beautiful recent relationship has come to a conclusion. Yes it is sad, yes it hurts…a lot, and yes, I will survive. And yes it was worth it.

Anybody else been there? I know a number of people going through relationship breakdowns right now and they too are hurting. My words may offer help and comfort to someone you know. If so feel free to share…

Now is the time to say ‘this too shall pass’…. and ‘life has no rule book… and ‘relationships have no guarantees. ‘

This too shall pass..confidently

Christmas is an emotionally charged time and when life, relationships and jobs fall apart … it leaves you feeling flat, confused and fuzzy.

After considerable thought my note to self says…

  • Take care of self love and self care.. avoid beating myself up. Remember the positives and what I have to offer.
  • It is not what happens to me…it is how I handle it and what I become as a result. This is part of my journey…life took an unexpected detour…I have overcome much worse…I can do this
  • Take appropriate action… for me that includes journaling, music, tapping as in EFT and mirror work
  • Avoid isolating…get out and mix, get gorgeous and do something
  • Express gratitude – we experienced an amazing fabulous relationship and I am full of gratitude for those beautiful memories of love, fun and support.
  • Where to from here? Starting with peace and acceptance, I am being kind to myself, learning from the experience and working on a plan to move forward.

Note to self with confident

My next considerable thought is I had wondered if I would ever meet someone and have the same depth of relationship I had with my husband…I can answer unequivocally…yes, yes yes.

This time it was for a season… I feel the Universe must have something fantastic planned for each of us… it was awesome.

Speaking with my special brand of confidence….‘The hand of friendship does not stop at the wrist…it extends all the way to the heart… so from my heart to your heart…and to my circle of friends – your support over these past days has been awesome…thank you! ‘

From My Heart to Your Heart 3

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29 comments to When It Feels Like Life Is Falling Apart…And It’s Christmas.

  • Che Johnson  says:

    Just what I needed to read. Thank you. I can most definitely relate to what you are saying and there is comfort in knowing that I am not alone. Thanks for sharing. X

    • Di  says:

      Hello Che,

      Thank you for your response and I am thrilled that you can gain comfort from my words. You are most definitely not alone. I find when I am open and share it creates an opening for others to share openly with me. Much love and hugs xxx Di

  • Vanessa Bushell  says:

    Great blog Di and so true! Loss is amplified at Christmas and self care and connection with friends is so important through hard times. Yes, I’ve been there all too many times… I know how much it hurts xoxo

    Lots of love

    • Di  says:

      Hello Nessie,

      Thank you for your response and supportive words. My friends have been my life-blood over the 11 years I have been widowed…and they are again jumping in to support me. Much love and hugs Di xxx

  • Pat  says:

    Beautifully written Di…xoxo

    • Di  says:

      Thanks Pat…

  • Krishna_Everson (@KrishnaEverson)  says:

    Sad to hear you are going through this, it’s lovely that you are sharing your experience so that it can touch others. Blessings to you honey, Krishna xx

    • Di  says:

      Thanks, love and hugs Krishna…Di xxx

  • Leesa  says:

    So beautifully written Di, I am so sorry your relationship has ended but you are dealing with it with grace and doing what you do so well – sharing and helping others. You are a treasure and I wish you all the happiness in the world xx

    • Di  says:

      Thanks Leesa you angel…it is getting easier every day. You are right helping others is helping me. Love and hugs Di xx

  • Sharon Tregoning  says:

    Oh Di, sending you much love honey. I love the ideas you have suggested.

    Mwah xxx

    • Di  says:

      Thanks Sharon all love and hugs graciously accepted. The ideas cover challenges of all kinds. Christmas can be a very lonely time for soo many. Your support is important to me. love and hugs in return Di xxx

  • Tony  says:

    I am sure you can guess who this is! I just want to say you have some great forward moving insights here and you should read them yourself as often as you need to. I especially like ‘Get gorgeous and do something!’ Will talk again soon, for now take a small step back and then run forward 🙂
    all the best

    • Di  says:

      Hi Tony …this is not first time it has been suggested I ‘read my own writings’…thank you! Cheers Di

  • Katie  says:

    Thank you – exactly what I needed to read. I have just had a break up and am feeling like the only one in the world who feels this way. Take care x

    • Di  says:

      Hello Katie…I am thrilled my post touched a nerve for you. Be kind, be gentle with yourself and soak up the love and support of friends at this time. Much love and hugs Di xxx

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    • Di  says:

      Hello there, thank you for your lovely words. I am unable to address you by name as you did not give me one. What a beautiful and amazing couple you are. I agree with your sentiments 100%. Comments like yours are one of the reasons I blog. Indeed ‘paying forward’ does come back and usually not in the form you expect. Blessings Di xx

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