Going Grey Taboos You Should Break 

Does the thought and signs that you are going grey send you to the dark side? If so, let?s chat about it and rattle the ?going grey skeleton?. And if we are going to rattle it then let?s make it dance.

The grey or coloured debate rages around us ? shall I colour it or shall I age gracefully? Colouring your hair is a fabulous option and we have unlimited choices. Going grey is also beautiful but my thoughts are that ?salt and pepper? is for the table!

1. Breaking A Beauty Taboo On Grey Hair

Take a moment and remember when you cited your first grey hair? I was in my late 30?s. I did what I am sure every woman does ? pulled it out and examined it closely, unbelievingly. It was actually white and translucent like the life had been sucked from it ? like ?I have lost something?. Later I was sharing my story with girlfriends we all laughed?then stopped?and looked. We actually looked at each other for other signs of this ageing process.

An article in the Daily Mail stated? Psychotherapist Lucy Beresford explains going grey has huge emotional and cultural significance. ?You?ll often see your first grey hair before your first wrinkle so, for most women, it?s the first time that they?re confronted with their own mortality,? she says, pointing out it?s not just the idea that we?re getting old that bothers us, but the idea that we?re actually already past it.

 2. It Means You Have Let Yourself Go ? If You Go Grey

Nicole Kidman attended a film premiere recently with an inch of silver regrowth and it made headlines? questions raged like

• Has she let herself go?
• Is she depressed?
• Is her career over?
• Will her husband leave her?
• Is she letting her side down?

Heaven forbid she had an inch of re-growth, not a terminal illness? It has nothing to do with letting yourself go? and everything to do with embracing who you are.

 3. You Will No Longer Be Sexually Attractive ? When You Are Grey

Really? Did you ever wonder if your grandparents had an active sex life? I can?t speak for the past but this grandmother does. In fact, making love in maturity has a richness and passion that may even surpass the bloom of youth. Having grey hair has nothing to do with your sexual attractiveness.

 4. What will I look like if I did?shock, horror! With Grey Hair

Maybe all those negative little thoughts are niggling at you. That gentle and not so gentle ribbing from your partner may be stirring you up? you know the comments I mean.

• What would you look like if you stopped dying your hair?
• Would it be ?silver? or ?salt and pepper? just like on the table?
• Or worse would you look like a woolly dog.
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 5. Grey hair Mean Loss Of Youth

Why is it that men ?look distinguished? or are lovingly referred to as the ?grey fox? and women simply ?look old? or they say ?she let herself go?. Grey hair is a visible sign to women that their youth is past and many mourn it. Girls we are not 20, yes, the first flush of youth is past?embrace the vitality and aliveness of maturity with both hands. It is not worse just different.  If a woman thinks going grey makes her less beautiful, less feminine and less desirable then she will be. If she embraces it, life can be fabulous.

On a lighter side ? Then there is the other end?the end you sit on. Bet you just checked ? right? The Daily Mail summed it up with?

•  Women don?t discuss it they sit on it and hope it goes away
• You know, your grandmother called it ?down there?
• The first mistake is wearing your glasses in the bath, the second was looking ?down there?.
• Yes. not only one hair but 3?can anyone relate to that?
• Coming to terms with the assorted indignities of ageing the wrinkles, thread veins, the downward gravitational pull of every bit of flesh not nailed to the bone? and now this!

 6. Grey hair Means Loss Of Fertility 

If ?you are grey you could not possibly fall pregnant?. I would think that was a good thing. Falling pregnant has nothing to do with the colour of your hair? After menopause or a hysterectomy, many women feel freer about making love as there is no fear of pregnancy.

 7. You Will Be Redundant And Invisible If You Go Grey

If you go down the ?oh not grey hair? roller coaster? Next, you will think you should be knitting tea cosies on the verandah in your slippers. That you are past your use-by date, you have become invisible and yes?if you do you will be bypassed. Or worse the term pops up you ?turned grey? rather like ?turned milk?? no good, no fun and had to be thrown out.

        I don?t think so!

The fact is going grey has been the ultimate beauty taboo because many women refuse to embrace it, we have lost sight of what is normal and natural.

There are a handful of wonderful mature women such as Judi Dench and Helen Mirren who are grey and gorgeous. Yet Nicole Kidman is considered to be slipping, depressed and letting her side down and she is gorgeous.

You don?t have to be a movie star to be visible?

Cliché it may be but life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away. And that has little to so what the colour of your hair.

Our world is full of options and choices. The most important factors are:

• What colour or embracing grey makes you feel best?
• Are you vibrant and alive about your decision and your life?
• Does colour or grey suit your lifestyle ? is what you are doing easy to care for and sustainable?
• Whatever your hair colour, your skin colour changes with age and you may need a change in the colours that look good on you. whoopee new clothes!

Whatever your choice be happy, embrace who you are, enjoy life.

??If you want some great ideas to visit Pinterest and my board

https://www.pinterest.com/dimr47/marvelous-mature-women/

and https://www.pinterest.com/dimr47/confidence/

I would love to hear your opinion. What do you think? To go grey or not?

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