It is said the words we choose reflect our state of mind… today I am reflective yet I feel confident as I stand and say I am ‘unashamedly me’! And yes I am standing in my power.
Confidence really is that extraordinary energy in you that is attractive, strong, vibrant and engaging. You know it when you see it…and you say ‘I want some of that’.
In our world we all wear a variety of masks, and we move them around, we all like to be seen at our best.
In our world there are times when we as women have no voice, we may be afraid to use our voice or we may have forgotten how to use our voice.
Or we may have found and developed the courage to speak out about what we feel strongly about.
And in that process we may push another’s buttons! I have done so with this reader.
His words ‘How many times do we need to know about the alcoholic father, the pack rape if it ever happened (good story ‘Sob sob”) the pregnancies etc etc. Get over it Di’. From someone called John with a Hotmail address of ‘sceptic’…
I elected not to approve this comment however it has been niggling at me. Confidence can be cut off at the knees when we are fearful or discouraged. It is time to take mine in both hands and speak up.
At all times I honour the choices made by any reader. That first inclination to ignore was a knee jerk reaction from my old way of reacting. My life experiences have taken me on many rough roads, I am facing this ‘hump’ with confidence in who and what I am.
It seems relevant when yesterday was International Women’s day that such a comment comes to light…a day to celebrate the achievements of women and to inspire women to continue to be brave enough to speak up and make a difference.
‘What I write is a reflection of who I am’ says author Emily Gower. How true…to reach that point I needed to see and acknowledge the blessings in challenges, to learn forgiveness and feel gratitude for who I have become as a result of my experiences. Only then could I write feeling strong in the knowledge of who I am.
To suggest that ‘if it ever happened (good story sob, sob)’ is a judgement call from someone who does not know me. I sincerely hope the important women in his family never experience rape and the tearing away of the soul that results before healing can occur… physical first… and much more deeply the emotional effects.
Maybe there is something going on in his life that this person needs love and understanding. Maybe his words are a reflection of his state of mind.
If my writing and sharing helps other women to see there are choices to challenges no matter what they are.. to acknowledge it is possible to rise above them and be strong in who you are…then I have made my difference in the world.
It is not a surprise any more when I am open and share to have someone come up quietly and say ‘me, my sister or my friend had a similar experience’. Women and men (I have had incredible support from male friends) relate to it yet may hide their story. Women know the fear you have faced in the telling and they respect your courage.
It is not about what happened, it is about who you become as a result of your experiences. It is about how we bring ourselves back from a challenge and how quickly we can achieve that.
Noni Hazlehurst sums it up well in this quote. ‘Don’t ever think that one woman can’t make a difference. If enough individuals say and do the same thing they become a crowd.
As open as I am, it isn’t always easy to be who you are in public warts and all. No one is 100% confident perfect all the time, this comment brought up my vulnerability and yes, even rocked me a little
Honesty and integrity are important in social media, and that where I have chosen to play. Confidence shows in bring able to express yourself openly….so I stand and speak for who I am unashamedly.
It saddens me that a person feels the need to hide behind the anonymity of the net.
And I do honour his choices and thank you him for his point of view.
I believe I have expressed mine…girls whatever your challenges I urge you to find your voice and the courage to face them in whatever way serves you best.
I honour the amazing, strong and confident women (and men) in my life as they stand in their power. .. who do you know who is a confident and amazing woman?
Warm regards Di…and what …you are asking… does this woman do?
I am passionate about mature women having the confidence and personal presentation to support their life choices.
Do you feel, look and speak with confidence? If not…my skill lies in developing your style… your mind and body… so you can shine and be your best… in your business..
If that is not happening for you…let me help you…
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