TIP – Choose one thing, just one thing that makes your heart sing and do it.
This is for the days when you feel the world is against you, you feel tired and weary, you wonder where your confidence has gone just when you need it. If that is you today, stop for a moment and remember that you are not alone and it will and does improve.
For today, choose one, thing, just ONE thing that makes your heart sing and do it…yes take real action. When I do that, it restores my sense of being, gives me a sense of peace and harmony and it boosts my confidence. My list has been created from things I love to do, things that bring me pleasure, things that give me a lift.
Today, I invite you to create yours.
Everyone’s list will be different, it maybe music, going for a walk in the mountains or by the sea, lighting a candle, meditating, going for a walk in the garden, visiting an art gallery, indulging in your creative side – painting or craft work, having a bubble bath, having coffee with a friend who lifts your spirits or watch a show that makes you laugh. I urge you start NOW, grab a pen and paper and scribble away, you will find that your list grows very quickly.
My list evolved after working through the book ‘The Artist’s Way’ many years ago and every now and again I see, hear or experience something and add that to my list. It is a living, growing document. My aim is to hit 365, I am well into the 200’s now.
NOTE! It is important that you create your list when you are in a good space. On those days, you can think of many things that make you feel happy.
My reason for saying that is when you are in overwhelm or things are piling on top of you, it is difficult to think clearly. On those days, you might even want to stamp your feet, and think ‘why would I want to pick a stupid flower or listen to music’. Go on, I bet you have reacted like that when someone has tried to get you out of a funk at some stage. Are you smiling?
Negative thoughts and actions take up an enormous amount of energy. It is like group activities, one negative thought takes hold and suddenly the mind draws on all your other negatives to support it and next thing you know your ‘pity party’ is in full swing. What a waste of your time and your beautiful energies! Wouldn’t you rather use your energy for something that you love, something to lift your mood and something that supports you?
What you will discover is that the very act of moving, of standing up and breathing more deeply gets your blood flowing. Add to that the beauty of going into nature, hearing the birds, seeing the flowers, feeling the sunlight on your back, it changes your state despite yourself. You get my meaning, it brings a smile to my face just thinking about it.
On down days, those horror days everyone experiences, your clarity is non- existent and you want to scream at the world. They are not the days to say…’Here I am in a funk what shall I do?’ However, if you can pick up your list, you have many choices at your fingertips. Choose one, just one and do it! It could be just the thing to spring you back to lightness.
Nobody escapes challenges in life and they often come when lest expected at the most inconvenient times. Remember, there can be joy and happiness even in the midst of drama. When you are able to grasp and appreciate those special moments even if they are fleeting it can make a huge difference to your state of mind.
Let’s be honest, life is not always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes we struggle within ourselves, sometimes we lose our footing, sometimes we simply need to surrender and reach out for help.
When you reach out for help, you get to see your challenge through another set of ears, another set of eyes and share another’s heart space.
When we are re-inventing ourselves we may experience growth at lightning speed, it’s natural to feel the struggle. It’s normal to feel challenged. It’s common that past stuff that is unresolved will come up, and confidence can slip away in the moment.
And if we ALLOW the space rather than resist it we will find that it’s in these moments that we can shift and grow to our next version of our confident selves.
We have so much wisdom within us, knowing how to access that and bring it forward into your life is what I do as a Confidence coach/mentor. If you are overwhelmed in life right now, reach out, let me help you so you can move forward and life your life being your best.
There will be a new Challenge coming up soon, The Butterfly Net Challenge, it dovetails perfectly into this blog topic. Stay tuned for details.